1. Do not lose sight of what truly matters. Does that clogged sink signify the end of the world? Are you going to remember or even care that the stranger you smiled at in the coffee shop didn’t smile back? When we’re having a bad day, we seem to zoom in on petty things and complain about them. Next time you’re pulling your hair out over something, ask yourself if it really matters.
2. It is okay to be alone or pull back from the world. Sometimes
we just need to step back and re-evaluate a situation, a relationship,
or just life in general. Don't lose sight of yourself. If you need to go into hiding for awhile and work on
stitching yourself back up, take the time to do that. It is so important
to pull back and spend quality time with yourself every now and then.
3. You are not always in control. You
cannot predict when certain things will or should happen, or how
everything will turn out. Sometimes you just have to stop pushing and
let go. Focus on all the things you are grateful for, and you will open up to realizing things aren't always as bad as they may seem at the time, in spite of you not having complete control.
4. What other people think is irrelevant. How many people are miserable slaves to the opinions of others? When you try so hard to please everyone but yourself you will lose sight of who you are, what you love and what makes you happy, and that's a great loss. Don’t allow your
immediate reaction to criticism change whatever it is you’re
being criticized for. Do whatever feels right to you, regardless of what
other people have to say about it...as long as you are not harming others, you need to follow your own heart and act accordingly. Don't let judgment (others opinions) ruin your life.
5. Don’t give up.
If you’re fighting for something that means a lot to you, do not stop
fighting whenever you happen to fall short. Remember why you are
fighting for it, what it's worth to you and persist in what matters. Not all journeys are easy, the ones that are worth the most to you will have ups and downs.
6. You don’t have to know all the answers.
No one ever has life all figured out. If anyone claims to they have stopped learning and growing. We are always learning and
growing. Life itself is a mystery and it’s okay to feel clueless
sometimes.
7. You are enough. All of us
have had times in our lives where we have thought, “I’m not smart enough
or pretty enough or strong enough or exciting enough to do _____.” Give
yourself a chance instead of forming limiting beliefs. Your have as much worth today as you did the day you were born into this world...don't ever forget that. No one can take it away from you or add to it, so find comfort in this.
8. Stay present. Try not to dwell on the past ("Nothing that happened before this moment has any power over you
whatsoever, except to the extent to which you carry it into this moment.
Dwell in the present with full forgiveness of yourself and others, and
your life will be lifted to divine right order...perfection, prosperity
and peace."-- Marianne Williamson) or worry about the future. Take everything one day at a time. Grudges serve No purpose whatsoever...they only do harm, as does obsessive worry in a future that hasn't arrived yet...or living in a "what if" state of mind.
9. Your feelings will not kill you.
I know that heartbreak, grief, depression, or resentment might make you
feel like you’re dead and breathing, but you have the strength to get
through whatever life throws at you. Hold on and see yourself through
it. Don't let emotions drive you to act in harmful ways...give yourself time to heal, and you will heal.
10. You are human. This is probably the
biggest reminder of them all. You will make mistakes. You will hurt
other people and other people will hurt you (intentionally or not). You won’t always feel happy
and positive. Next time you feel the urge to beat yourself up over any
of these things, remind yourself that you are an imperfect human being
instead, and that you have control over what choices you will make from that point on.
