Tuesday, February 3, 2015

The 10 C’s of Couple Compatibility


by Marcia Sirota MD
Being a super-successful couple comes down to following the ten “C’s.” These are ten concepts, all beginning with the letter “C,” which will enable you to take your relationship to the next level.

Couple Compatibility #1 on the list is Commitment
Both people have to take the relationship seriously and be willing and able to stick with it in good times and in bad. If one of you lacks commitment, the other will feel insecure and unloved, which leads to relationship stress. Without a strong commitment, it’s too easy to walk away when challenges arise.

Couple Compatibility #2 is Communication
Both people need to know that the other person understands their needs and feelings and will respond to them appropriately. No-one is a mind-reader and good, clear communication is the only way for two people to develop and maintain trust and intimacy.

Couple Compatibility #3 on the list is Caring
Love is necessary in a relationship but it’s not enough. For a relationship to work, you must both really care about your partner’s thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, likes, dislikes and values. If there’s not enough caring, no amount of infatuation or passion will keep you together.

Couple Compatibility #4 is Compromise
Being flexible and allowing for some give and take will build trust and respect. The willingness to give up something you want or to let the other person have their way shows them that you’re easy-going and responsive to their needs.

Couple Compatibility #5 on the list is Compassion
Being understanding and tolerant toward each-other goes a long way in maintaining the good-will in a relationship. When there’s compassion instead of criticism, both people feel fully accepted and free to be their own, imperfect selves.

Couple Compatibility #6 is Conscientiousness
When both people are thoughtful and regularly rise to the occasion and do the right thing, it creates an atmosphere of comfort and happiness in the relationship.